Can a stupid person be a smart-ass?

Within the next few weeks, Aaron will be getting deployed for 6 months. It's going to suck. There is no other way to say it. At this point, I just want them to leave, so they can come back.

Some of you might be thinking "you don't see him a lot anyways, so what does it really matter?" Alright. Stop right there. I've heard this more than once, and really, once was enough. So listen up, heres your lesson for the day.

What not to say to someone whose "significant other" is in the military:

1. "You don't see him a lot anyways, so what does it really matter?" 

I'll tell you why it matters. When on deployment on a submarine, you get emails. That's it. No skype, no      phone calls, nothing. So when you go from talking to someone every single day on the phone, and seeing their face on a computer screen on a frequent basis, it does matter. Having a long distance relationship sucks enough as it is, so cutting the communication by THAT MUCH MORE, makes it matter.

2. "I don't know how you do it." 

Usually meant as a compliment. But please don't go there. It's annoying. Sometimes I don't know how I do it either, but I do. Because I want to. I can't help who I love, and who I love just happens to be a submariner. Therefore, I took on the challenge, and will always find the strength to move forward.

3. "Where is he going?"
Unless you want me to kill you, I can't tell you. Sometimes I don't even know.

4. "That sucks, I'm sorry." (Could pertain to many different things. Like when talking about an upcoming deployment.)
Yes, yes it does actually. Thank you for bringing it to my attention again, though. And don't be sorry. As much as it sucks, my boyfriend is one BAMF (If you don't know what that means, than well, figure it out :) ) I think I'm the only one out of my friends whose boyfriend gets to go all over the world for his job, while protecting our country, and having the power to blow sh*t up :) Does your boyfriend do that?

5. "You decided to be in this relationship, so..." (Usually hear this when I'm having a pity party type day)
STOP STOP STOP right there. And see above, number 2. You are very correct that I was not forced at gunpoint to have a relationship with a submariner. But again, I can't help who I love. I'd be miserable without him at all, so I rise to the occasion and find the strength to make it through the days that might test my sanity. I think I'm allowed to have my days where I'm a little rough around the edges or upset about the upcoming or current deployment. It's only natural. Maybe stop and recognize what exactly is happening, and what COULD happen.

There's so many more things that I could come up with but these are just the ones that I hear the most. If you're guilty of them, well, consider your get of jail free card used. During the next 6 to 7 months, please don't go there. Not with me, or any military girlfriend/fiance/wife/anything. Our sanity is tested enough, you don't need to test it even more :)